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Naija babes are EASY. I am so so tired of hearing this from guys that come back from Nigeria. It really gets me down that the reputation of young ladies at home could not be any worst. Naija babes are sluts, cheap, easy, hoes, gold-diggas, desperate and would sleep with an 80year old for a recharge card. They will have orgies with thier sisters for a bag from Paris. I am tired.
My uncle just got back from Naija a couple of weeks ago, and he was gisting me of all the escapades. He went out to different bars in Lagos with some friends who are supposed Lagos big boys(one of whom is d head of a popular bank and is currently being investigated by EFCC), and they were asking him what sort of babe he would like for the night. he's like nah, I am married, and they laugh at him like arent we all! This friend tells him that any type of babe he wants is just one call away because he knows this GIRL in Unilag that organies babes for nights out. (Biko why is it always Unilag sef??lol)
When my uncle insists that he's not interested, he's like don't worry, lets go to the club, they will come to us. All we have to do is order loads of expensive drinks, and they will flock like bees to a hive. Going out in London with the Nigerian crowd, I have been unfortunate enough to notice this disturbing trend, but my uncle in retelling the story seems shocked that upon ordering the drinks, babes magically drift to their table. "Moet is a hoe's energy drink" is thier motto!LOL. The fact that he is a pot bellied middle aged man did not seem to dissuade them, if anything this was their target market as young boys cannot afford their lifestyles!! My uncle said this trip confirmed his suspicion that he can NEVER live in Nigeria again because"the moral fibre of our society is corrupt, both men and women have no sense of decency, and people are morally degenerated" his words not mine.
My brother also just got back from Naija with stories about girls constantly bugging him. Now I normally take his stories with a pinch of salt cause he seems to think every girl is into him. One time we were at Boots and this pretty attendant asks him if he would like anything, and he replies no, flashing his million dollar smile, and as the babe leaves, he nudges me excitedly, saying, meeeennnnn b, did you see how dat babe was gbaduing me??
Am like dude, relax, she was being nice,
he's like did she come to you to ask if you are allright?? mennn she was all over me like butter on toast......at which point I start walking away and shaking head for him!!lol.
But his stories this time were not filled with pride, but with sadness, like menn dese babes have no respect for themselves, they are filled with no self-worth, and have been taught to believe that they are worth nothing more than their youthful bodies, and milking it is the only way to escape the trap of persistent poverty. I was impressed by his thought process, as not many Nigerian guys think like this.
This is where my problem lies,(and thus my rant begins!). I do not mean to bash the guys but I am TIRED of y'all hating the hoes(lol). Can we show these hoes some lovee?? Like my friend says hoes need love too!!LOL
O.K seriously, me and my mum always debate who the morality of the society rests on, and I always used to agree with my dad. Our argument was that if women are morally upright, they bring up their male and female children in that light and influence a generation. But I was naive to think like this because this is a purely western approach.
In Africa, the men sing the tune of society that women have to dance to. This is not only because of the symbolic value of the man, but because men control the FINANCES. It all boils down to money in Nigeria. Men are the providers, and no matter how women try, they cannot be as financially bouyant as men. In the western world, although they also face considerable difficulty, it is very possible to be wealthy without selling your body.
Now what is messed up in Nigeria, and Africa in general is that the men exploit this, and then have the audacity to call them names. Are you freakingg kidding me?? Are you confused?? You cannot be on both sides of the fence. If you say a woman is a golddigging slut, yet you take a girl shopping just so you can screw her, then you are a hypocrite. These middle aged men drive through unilag etc with thier big cars, big money, big egos and big stomachs to seduce these girls with money theyknow they could never have access to if they read all the books in Unilag library, and then complain that they are whores!! What the fuck??
This is a scenario I read in Baba Alaye's blog:
"When we scream about "moral decay" in the society, i don't think its's that cut and dried.We should look at the whole picture.Are we that morally Bankrupt as a people. No i don't think so. It's Poverty. When you go to bed hungry because you don't have food to eat, and you're not sure where Breakfast is coming from. Your outlook to life changes.It stops being about what the flashy Pastor says you can't do, it becomes a race of Survival. And the odds are daunting.You don't beleive me? Step into any face me i face you house in Lagos for 10 minutes and see how people live, how 15 people squeeze themselves into a room just a little bigger than a Toyota Corolla. How 100+ people shove and fight to use a Maggot infested bathroom in the morning.Then get dressed and jump on a Molue to go to work. All their hopes and dreams dashed, their future mortgaged by Corrupt Politicians and Millitary Despots.. No Medicare, no Electric Power, no food, nothing. Even Dogs at the other more affluent part of town feed better.Poverty amidst plenty
.A lot of these girls want to chart a better future for themselves they see education as a ticket out of abject povert. (role models are all over the place). So they give it their all. They throw everything in it. They use the only thing they've got. They sleep with Lecturers to get admission into school, sleep with lecturers to pass exams, sleep with Aristos to feed, buy handouts, clothe themselves, and they have absolutely no time for broke undergraduate boys trying to run game. (Oloshi olori buruku i'm running away from poverty you wan make i come add your own join? Na Flowers i go chop? you dey craze. Abeg carry your Basketball shirt, and tontirin jeans comot for here before i open my eyes .lol) Baby gurl needs to send money home to feed her siblings and take care of her ailing mother or wharrever.
They finally graduate from school and keep in touch with the numerous Aristos.Her Networking is on point,she's a *cough* "graduate" now, so she gets a job in xyz Bank. Now she's an official Lagos Big Girl. She buys a Honda, moves from Okokomaiko to a Flat at Opebi, She comes to jand for Summer, attends all the Ovation type parrys in Naija, get's herself an Ajebutter Ikoyi boy, The Boy has no idea where she's coming from. All he knows is she cooks well, cleans up his crib, has no qualms washing his clothes, she shows him a few bedroom tricks that blow his socks off, goes to church every Sunday and Wednesday, Bobo is going, going, gone. Next thing na for Wedding Web site you go see them.
That, my friend is the Nigerian dream."
This post illustrates my point. Now I am not condoning or even excusing such behaviour. But men you have to look at it from both perspectives--life in Naija is hard. These men make it too easy to succumb to the Gbogbo Bigz girlz lifestyle.
Picture a converse scenario, a babe does not do any Suga dady runz in schools, leaves with her 1st class but no connections. Ends up in Ministry of Works earning 10,000 salary, half of which goes to transporting herself from her shack in Ilupeju to the Ministry on the Island, not enough to send back to the village to mumy where militants are spraying bullets in her backyard, not enough to send to her younger brother to register for jamb and come and join her in Lagos, not enough to freakin survive. After your mum has spent the better part of life hustling for money to educate you and you have nothing to show for it, you start to throw morality out the back door.
On the other hand, your childhood friend and roomate who failed all her classes but slept with her lecturer to pass now works in some place making big bucks and mixing with the right alhajis, now owns her own flat, car and has enough to send to mumy and siblings in the village. Its an all too typical scenario.
Instead of passing judgement, why dont we ask the men why they are willing to throw away money just to sleep with young girls? It is with them I find the major flaw, and it is for them I shake my head.
i am tempted to applaud this post. i am anyway.ReplyDelete
this is looking at the situation from a pseudo-victim perspective. despite 'the end justifies the means' line, the men play a big role in reviving the right sense of decency in nigeria.
i dont know how yet the answer seems glaring.
Its unfortunate but you know there are many gils who went the right way that are getting paid and some aristo chics.ReplyDelete
I think the system is just rubbish that men have taken advantage of the system to get desperate girls. I interned in a bank and noticed that it eventually catches up with many of these girls.
What of Abuja? My friends in Uni-Abuja there say some use the girls for rituals (many of these rich men are backwards especially hausa guys who drug Igbo chics).
I get disgusted at these chics but many aren't poor (middle class), and just greedy and trying to live above their means (do you have to have to sleep in Hilton?). Men are a-holes sometimes.
Imagine the smelly old men that hit on my 20yr old self thinking I'm desperate to travel to dubai.
lol@ladi,i def agree with you.ReplyDelete
and i love this post cos i personally know lots f girls in naija who are not cheap.
I defo agree with ladi and yinksolu, it has gotten to a stage where average girls are just greedy and instead of working hard just want to sleep their way to the top. I understand these sentiments but my point is that the men should shoulder the bulk of the blame because if they did not offer these babes so much money, and were not so irresponsible/perverted!!ReplyDelete
Mehn this post is so on point..and btw this is in no way being feminist..., if i see anything wrong i would challenge it thats what you just did,that is why i keep saying i'm neither feminist nor anti feminist.ReplyDelete
You are right in the sense that these same men that criticise these girls and call them cheap are the same pple that solicit these girls services..now what does that say about the men themselves....what does that make them??
My dear Nigeria is a very hard place to live in..i'm thankful to God that i'm not on the other side of life, you never know the extent to which you would go when faced with certain situations..i'm not saying its right to sell your body or anything but like i always say there is always more than one side to every story.
As in babe you don't understand!!ReplyDelete
I've just come back from Nigeria about 3 weeks ago and the young ladies there even the mature sef are just very disgraceful from the clothes they wear to how they behave. I was so dissapointed , I was in real shock because I just had the image that african girls are well mannered. I suppose only a small majority.
All due to selfishness and greed want to do 'big girls' and in the end they just end up all drugged up etc etc what's the point?
and men using them for rituals ? God have mercy o!! anyways God dey in this situation...Nigeria is CORRUPT !! Please don't get me wrong I love Nigeria I even want to relocate but I am not blind to these things... Nigerias level of corruptness os seriously saddening.
God help us seriously
Nice post. Reminds me of Naeto C's song "Ashewo". lol. e no mean say d girl na Ashewo...ReplyDelete
@ miss flyhigh yez oh d image of naija babes or even village girls that are supposed to be good has died oh, ever1 has opened eye!ReplyDelete
And yea thanks sugaking, so true!
@ ms dufa thank u:-))
I'm more curious as to what brought the rant on..?ReplyDelete
What instigated it?
it was instigated by my brother and uncle that got back from naija oh! just got tired of hearing the same thing over and over, and needed for people to explore the other side of the coin!ReplyDelete
Nigeria is a mess. People are desperate and will do anything for a buck. It's the gov't. Let's get that straight and give ppl more opportunities.ReplyDelete
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on point o Bukky! thank you for not being so myopic in your view...the truth is the only bargaining tool these girls have is their body...the men keep criticizing...if they really are appaled, why not set up a foundation offering scolarships?? why use said money to get a piece of ass?ReplyDelete
A bloody good post, straight point of view of these gals. And until u see it for ur self nobody has a freakin right to judge.ReplyDelete
i applaud you really good postReplyDelete